The pool and an advice

Sunday, my mom's best friend threw us a farewell party. Just so happened her brother's place has a pool. Both my kids were delighted with the sight of the pool. JP was of course guarding Clemmie from falling in. I knew eventually she was going to get in and she did. It was so funny how she took off her clothes at the end without any worry and care in the world. My mom on the other hand was very concern and pushed me to take her out immediately. I wondered if she is concerned about how her friends' would think or the chilly weather, but the sun was out with a little breeze. And Clemmie loves the cold on her skin.

Theo was delighted but extremely caution about water. He just kneel by the edge of the pool to get a touch of the water with both his hands.

As the day progress, I tried to get the kicking and screaming Clemmie out of the pool once and she ended up back at the pool. I hate doing that to her. And I also have to deal with my mom. If no harm, no foul why can't the pool be Clemmie's outlet. Clemmie did take a miss step and fell in deeper by the steps, but she was okay. It happened in Hawaii and I grabbed her by the arms and pulled her right up. She is a swimmer. Next step is to get her swimming lessons.

I did asked for advice in dealing with non believer of SPD. Krissy, the director of admission at school, told me any criticism coming from one's mom is the most painful. It is so true. Being a mom can be cruel. I wonder if I would do that to Clemmie one day be hurtful and cruel when it is her turn to have her own children. I do not want to be that mom. Maybe it was how she was brought up with nothing and she rely upon herself.

Krissy's nephew is autistic with spectrum Asperger syndrome and she knows how it goes around family members. She suggested to lay a ground rules before going to places. And keep reminding them the rules. And she uses a treat as her leverage which she hates to do, but it works to keep things under control. All the places she suggests for family gathering would be outdoors that way the kids can be loud and they will not bother anyone. Her nephew is smart and he won prizes for his science endeavors. The next Einstein in the making. The mind is a beautiful thing.