Clemmie gets overly agitated when grandparents are in town and on top of that we have our move to Hong Kong which adds to her SPD. But we still need to look out for her behaviors that are not part of the sensory seeking. She is free spirited and full of mischiefs to begin with and her SPD brings it up a notch when she can't sit still to eat.
Judy helped me with identifying key behaviors that need to go with appropriate consequences. Listening is one and follow through with action is another. Just because at times the SPD takes over, we still need to remind her that she is in control of her body and will power can kick in with outside help. I always remind myself to use the phrase, if you can't do what I asked of you, I will have to help your body.
I tried not to go into spanking, but I do admit I get frustrated and at the last resort I spank to get full attention and she was able to stop her body then I know it was a behavior issue. And sometimes the spank would cause the SPD to arise more, that is when nothing works and I have to wait it out and help her get out of it.
I think I need to get help myself to cope with all this. I don't want to spank, to yell or to do anything of that sort. Maybe some aromatherapy can help us both to calm our senses.
Judy used weights on both kids. Clemmie with ankle weights about half a pound on both ankles to help slow her body down and also to keep her heels on the ground. (I think that if she can do her tippy toes naturally, dancing class should help give her the outlet and structure at the same time.)
Theo immediately put on the rubber wrist weights and he likes the ankle weights too. The pound of weights depends on the weight of the child. Since Clemmie and Theo are about the same size and weight around 40 pounds each, 3/4 to 1 pound each should be a good start.
I am also looking at weighted blankets for sleeping. Both of the kids sleep with each of us, Clemmie with me and Theo with papa. And I have read so much on the psychology of sleeping with your kids and it is bad for the kids and you, etc. But yet those arguments do not go into anything related to the kids' maturity level and what about kids with SPD? who rely on sensory input to calm their body down. Until the child has the idea of how to self soothe there is always an underline reason why some kids cannot do it. And I sometimes wonder why couples in the old days have separate beds. Maybe they are hypersensitive?
Theo has been working hard with his speech therapy. Cathy is always concern if he missed a session everything would fall back, which isn't the case and he proved it to her time and time again even after getting well from a flu, he was able to continue where they left off.
He has such great memory, it is mind blowing. He would remember how her desk was last week verse this week and attempted to rearrange her office back to the way he sees it. Maybe he could be an interior designer with his spatial skills.
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