Plan B

Dr. Ross Greene has looked into why a child is explosive. His approach to solving the explosive child problem is to investigate and find out what the child problems are and solve them. If you can't solve it yourself you can get help. All children has the motivation to do well, but lack the skills to meet expectation of you or any adults creates the challenge that makes them defiant. It is very challenging if a child lack the skills. And lack skills means frustrations and explosive behaviors.

I think it is all common sense, but sometimes we are hooked to get an easy way out by using authoritative voice instead of really looking for the problem and how to solve it.

My son is has speech delay and both my son and daughter has sensory processing disorder. It is due to the help of many people that we as parents were able to figure out what skills my children are lacking and how to help them. It is not a one day process. My son has been going to speech therapy for 2 plus years now and still going. He is improving gradually, but eventually there would be a breakthrough. My daughter is a very hyper child. I thought she was normal, but then she is wired differently. She is tactile defensive and she would scream and yell at the beach where any average child would enjoy sand under her feet, but not her. The water part she loves, but the sand part is unbearable. She will have the adults carry her across till her feet touches the water.

To keep priority is the key. It is not like I let them do whatever they want, but if I have to reason I would, but maybe when they are older. At age 3 and 5, you really don't have to go into extreme detail. And at this age they love to ask why. So keep the answer short and sweet. My son always ask why I always ask him to brush his teeth. Since he knows what germ is, I say to keep all the germs out and make your teeth clean, And sometimes the why can go forever. So I have books on brushing teeth and going to dentist or to doctors. And who doesn't likes stories.